Earlier this year (18 March 2008) I was honoured to be a guest on the Body and Soul radio show to discuss the topic of infidelity. Yup, not an easy topic.
If you'd like to listen to the podcast of that interview, you can do so by clicking here .
One of the key messages from the interview is that in relationships we make agreements, and "cheating" is actually better viewed as someone breaking an agreement.
When we use the term cheating, we're making it personal...and of course it can certainly feel that way. When we take some time to look at it from a higher perspective we realise we're talking about agreements, breaking the rules, and most importantly choices and consequences.
Here are some questions for you today.
Coaching Exercises
1. If you are in a significant relationship now, or have been in the past, what agreements do you have in place around fidelity? This is more than just whether someone can or cannot do something, but also about how you'll talk about it and what the consequences of various choices will be.
2. If someone you have been in a relationship with broke the agreement abour fidelity, what have you learned from that experience?
3. If you were the person in the relationship who broke the agreement, what have you learned from the experience?
4. With respect to your thoughts on these questions and what you've learned, what are you committing to now?
As always, if you need any further personal support in response to any of these coaching exercises, please consider using the askacoach.com service.
All the best,
Noel
Noel Posus - Master Coach
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