Relocation & Expat Coach

Silence!

All too often we speak to just fill the space with sound because we feel uncomfortable in the silence.  We might turn on the TV, the stereo, the ipod, the walkman just to fill the space around us.  

When you are thinking about your move or wanting to move, how can you really think through this whole question with a lot of noise around you.  Is this not the right time to find that silence?

Only in this silence can you really hear your own thoughts, your own concerns, your own fears, your own intuition.  Now is your opportunity to find that one place that you can be quiet, that one place that no-one will disturb you, that one place where you can just be quiet.  Once you've found this place, this is the time to switch everyone thing off - no phone, no mobile/cell, no stereo, no ipod, no walkman, no TV, no sound.  The first time you do this the sound will be 'deafening' ... and be very uncomfortable; but persevere. 

Sit there and just listen to what you can hear - your own breathing, the pen writing on the paper, the sound of the waves hitting the beach, the wind in the air - whatever the sound is, what can you really hear?

Once you've started to hear the world around you, what else can you hear?  Being really silent will allow you to hear your own thoughts.  What thoughts are going through your mind?  What answers are you hearing?  What questions are you asking?  What fears are being raised?

 Whatever the thoughts are, this is your own opportunity to truly start to listen to your own thoughts without having them impacted by the thoughts, feeling, emotions of others.  Now is your opportunity to start to ask yourself the questions that you want answers to - what is the reason that you want to move?  What is the reason that you want to make this change?  What is the reason that you want to change your environment?  Don't worry about looking for the answers, just jot down the questions as you ask them and the answers will come.

As you start to get used to silence, used to being on your own and listening to your own thoughts - you'll find that the answers to the questions you've been asking will come.

If you wish to discuss how to do this, just email me.  I look forward to hearing how this has helped you make your decision(s)!

Want to convert your dreams/aspirations to achievable goals? 

Take this opportunity to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path, who will motivate you to make the right decision!  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!  Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com - select 'click here for a free session - My Life'

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Paperwork!

'Although it has been subject to strong criticism for a long time, bureaucracy and its variants can still be found in a large number of organisations.'

As we work through the 'selling process' we are find out just how many pieces of paper we have to submit, review, agree, sign ... !  I'm not sure whether the information about the complexities of selling have been pubished, as we are finding out step-by-very slow-step.

Not only do we have to complete and sign forms that we don't understand - the new process is not to use a legal firm that can support you in the process.  So how do you move forward? 

We've been lucky with the Estate Agents that we selected and that have sold the house - they have one person allocated to supporting each sale.  Not only did it take a couple of days to work through the paperwork, recently we were asked to sign the contract - the sale contract.  The challenge with this is that it is written in bureaucratic legalese with references to a 'standard contract'.  When we enquiried as to what the clauses were in the 'standard contract', the Estate Agency didn't know, so we contacted the Conveyancing Agents.  They sent us the original paperwork that we completed.  We explained that we were looking for clauses 'x' in the 'standard contract' and they send us a very old frequently photocopied copy of the 'standard contract'.  With great difficulty we battled our way through this contract in line with the sale contract and found that we were now doing the legal work!  It's a scary position to be in ... but we have been very lucky with the Estate Agency representative - they have supported us.

Now we are in the position of having returned the paperwork ... and know no more!  We have put in a request for an exchange date and a completion date, but these new processes don't allow you to get confirmation.

Towards the end of last week we found out that the VAT rate to be charged on these services is dependant upon when we exchange and that in the UK this goes up by 2.5% on the 1st January, 2010; but that our Conveyancing Agents don't seem to worry about the additional charge that will be made to us.

So although we found the purchasing process in Madeira an unusual one, we were supported all the way through the process with clear understanding of what was happening when.

Planning ... what a challenge when you are unable to find out the dates that are required for planning!  Watch for the next challenge in organising the moving companies. 

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'When written in Chinese, ...

... the word 'crisis' is composed of two characters.  One represents danger and the other represents opportunity.'  John F. Kenned y

When you look at the dictionary definition - a stage in a sequence of events at which the trend of all future events, esp. for better or for worse, is determined; turning point. - it's interesting when you look at the translation of the word into Chinese. 

It brings to mind the question of translation.  When you are looking at relocation or emigration, what language will you need to learn to ensure that you can take advantage of the country to which you are moving.  We often think that we can learn the language when we arrive, but my experience to starting to learn Portuguese makes me think that learning through a formal approach gives you a greater advantage of truly understanding the grammer and the meaning of the language.

So what does danger and opportunity mean?  The danger of not learning the language or not learning the language accurately; and the opportunities presented when you do speak the language accurately.  Interestng thought when you think that the first time you try and speak the new language you will feel as though you are in crisis.  Take a deep breathe, remember that crisis in Chinese comprises both danger and opportunity and just say what you want to say!

Want to make a success of your goals?

Take this opportunity to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path, who will motivate you to make the right decision!  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!  Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com - select 'click here for a free session - My Life'

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Bite off ...

... more than you can chew, then chew it.  Plan more than you can do, then do it.  Anonymous

Interesting quote ... the other one that I've heard similar to this is 'give a busy person something to do and it'll get done!'  We often think that we are too busy to take on more work, more commitments, more actions ... if we just looked at our time and planned it more efficiently - we would get more done.  How are you spending your time?  What are you doing with time?  Where are you wasting time?  How much time has you really got to plan more than you can do?

Want to make a success of your plans?

Take this opportunity to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path, who will motivate you to make the right decision!  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!  Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com - select 'click here for a free session - My Life'

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Follow effective action ...

... with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.  James Levin

Reflection allows you the opportunity to benefit from your effective action.  It's often during this reflection on your benefits, your achievements, your successes, your challenges, that you learn from the action and identify the next steps.  Reflection will allow these next steps to bring even more effective action.

Want to make a success of your actions?

Take this opportunity to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path, who will motivate you to make the right decision!  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!  Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com - select 'click here for a free session - My Life'

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S T R E S S

The Confusion and Frustration that

 

results when the Mind suppresses

 

the Body's Primordial Instinct to

 

choke the living s**t out of some

idiot who desperately needs it.

Want to reduce the stress in your life, while making a success of your goals?

Take this opportunity to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path, who will motivate you to make the right decision!  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!  Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com - select 'click here for a free session - My Life'

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A Round Tuit!

A
round tuit
Tuits of any type are hard
to come by,and round ones are
especially rare.  They are indispensible
items for the hard-pressed business person.
After many attempts we have succeeded in
locating a source of supply.  Accept this one
 with our compliments.  Look after it - it could
help you to increase your efficiency. Now, you
need no longer say "I'll do it when I can get
a round tuit."   You have a round tuit of
your own - who knows what
you can accomplish!

Want to get around to emigrating? 

Take this opportunity to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path, who will motivate you to make the right decision!  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!  Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com - select 'click here for a free session - My Life'

Are you logical or intuitive?

Take this Right Brain/ Left Brain Quiz to determine whether you are more logical or more intuitive.  Knowing this will assist you with your understanding of how you make your decisions. Want to make a success of your goals? Take this opportunity to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path, who will motivate you to make the right decision!  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!  Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com - select 'click here for a free session - My Life' Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

Reasons Why Not!

Suddenly the weather changes and your current environment reminds you the reasons you chose to live where you are now!  Today saw me down at Camber Sands with a 17-month old Jack Russell that is staying with us (while his owner is away).  The day start drizzly, grey, overcast; but by the time we went to Camber it was 24°C, blue skies and sunny!  

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It's days like today when you wonder wwhether the effort and work involved in moving is worthwhile Walking along the beautiful sandy beach reminded me of one of the reasons I selected to live in Kent.  As the Garden of England, days like today show you the beauty of the UK.

So, in the challenges of trying to build abroad while being in the UK, you do wonder if the decisions you have taken are the right ones.  There will be times when you will question your decision.  There will be times when you think that you've made the wrong decisions.  It's better to have these doubts before you go - so work them through.

What are the benefits of moving?  What the are benefits of staying where you are now?  You have worked your way through your own reasons, but it is worth just recapping to be absolutely sure.

S - be specific
M - set a measure to allow yourself when you move, whether it was a success
A - what makes you believe that what you are trying to do is achievable?  Be clear in what you write down.
R - how realistic are you being about your move? about your change?
T - what timeframe have you decided upon?

Now you have throught through the reasons why not ... what are the reasons you have selected to move?

Want to make a success of your plans to change your environment?
Want to make a success of your emigration?
Want to make a success of your repatriation?

Take this opportunity to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path, who will motivate you to make the right decision!  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!  Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com - select 'click here for a free session - My Life'

. Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

Reflecting on the past!

When you start to reflect on what you are leaving behind and what you are looking forward to, it's strange what comes back to remind you of those really good times and maybe not so times.  For me it was receiving this video.  For all those who have had IT support challenges or who still work in the IT environment ... it's worth watching this video - it brings the whole topic of support into perspective!

Download IT_Pro 

Many hours working on IT programmes and projects with the all the elements of support required - the highs when someone understands what you've just explained and the challenges when you know that the person you are talking to just does not understand what to do next.

This video brought back some really great memories of my time working with so many fabulous clients across the world and the laughs that we had implementing systems.

Spend a few moments once you've downloaded it and watched it, recalling those memories from your past!

Want to make a success of your plans to change your environment?
Want to make a success of your emigration?
Want to make a success of your repatriation?

Take this opportunity to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path, who will motivate you to make the right decision!  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!  Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com - select 'click here for a free session - My Life'

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Friendship

The unexpected arrives and you suddenly start to remember who you are going to move away from.  A very close friend sent me 'The Bright Red Hat' - Download TheBrightRedHat, and it brought home to me all the people I've met in my travels and emigrations.  All those friends I grew up with and moved away from.  All those friends I made at boarding school, and moved away.  All those friends I had a college, and moved away from.  All those friends I've made in the different countries I've lived in and worked in, and since moved away from.  And now another emigration and another step away from the friends I have here.  Who are you moving from when you move to your new environment?

One of the biggest challenges we have is to keep in touch with all those people we've met, all those aquaintances that we've made on our journey through life, and all those friends that have always been there when you've needed someone to talk to or to support you.

How do you stay in touch?  A great learning for me was the Christmas letters that my mother always  wrote and sent around the world to keep in touch with the friends my parents had made in their travels.  I started the same idea when I left home and I know from friends of mine that if they don't get the letter they are really disappointed.  In today's world, technology allows us to connect through various media and I've been lucky enough to connect to family, school friends, work colleagues, business partners, and a range of fabulous connections using social media - yes I am on Facebook too, plus a number of others.  A great way to connect is through your own blog.  So rather than think that you are leaving people behind, now is the time to think about how you will stay connected.  Think about how to add to your circle of friends rather than move away from those you have!

Want to make a success of your plans to change your environment?
Want to make a success of your emigration?
Want to make a success of your repatriation?

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Tip ten - What about those things that you really enjoy in the environment you are in at the moment?

The May Spring Bank Holiday in the UK reminded me of why I love living in Kent, and the reason it is known as the Garden of England. It also reminded me of the huge contrasts in the UK weather. Sunday was a glorious day. We were looking after a friend’s 14-month old Jack Russell – a dog that needs a huge amount of exercise. So off we went to Camber and onto the beach at 8.30am! What a fabulous experience. On the Sunday the colours were vibrant. Driving down - the greens of the fields, the blue of sky, the remnants of the rape seed – all these colours were so vivid. On the beach, the blue of the sky, the haze in the high level fluffy clouds and the warmth of the sun on the golden beach – all these things led me to think about the environment we were leaving.

Monday reminded me about one of the reasons we were leaving, as the puppy and I were walking along the same beach at Camber in the rain! Well have you ever tried stopping an energetic Jack Russell from running on the beach in the rain? There were one or two other people out walking too, but the beach was deserted. A huge contrast over the Sunday when, as we left, the crowds were arriving and the beach was filling up. I had a really interesting experience on the sands as I was walking across the beach following a frolicking puppy – I could hear the sands bubbling! Incredible! As I stood there watching the tide come back in and hearing the sand bubbling, the sounds became more magnified.

Take a moment to reflect over the things that you love about the environment that you are currently living in – those things that you will miss when you move:

- be specific about the things you love in the environment that you are living in
- be specific about the things that you will miss when you move?
- how will you measure the impact of those things that you will miss
- if you decision is still to move, what action do you need to take to ensure that the things that you enjoy in your current environment will be there in your new environment
- what action will you need to take to ensure that those things that you will miss can be found in your new environment
- being realistic how many of the things that you enjoy in your current environment are so important in your life that they will have an impact on your quality of life?
- being realistic, how many of the things that you will miss are things that you cannot live without?
- what timeframe have you allowed yourself to confirm that the things in your current environment that you cannot live without are found in your new environment?
- how excited are you about your new environment. It is true that if you cannot live, dream, breathe, be engulfed by our choice to move, you probably won’t do it!
- when will you record your reflections? It is important that you capture all your thoughts, your aspirations, and your dreams as you go through this process.

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.biz!

Sign up to coaching with Barbara on http://nyasa.coachinginteractive.com! Select 'click here for a free session - My Life'

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Tip nine - buying property and getting a mortgage.

During our reserarch - on the internet, through agents, attending exhibitions - we had always found that the advice given was to find a property to buy before you emigrated.  The importance of this is multiples, and includes:

• the credit rating that you need to get a mortgage, if you need a mortgage
• the financial support you may require to ensure that you can organise your mortage
• somewhere to move into on your arrival
• somewhere to send your property (furniture, crockery, cutlery, clothing, etc.) to
• a place that you can call home, on your arrival

Now is the time for you to make a decison and decide exactly where you want to move to:
- be specific about:
     - the area/environment in which you wish to live
     - the type of house that you want to buy
     - the price that you want to buy at ... the money you want to spend
- how you will measure that everything you want in a property will be there?
     - who do you need to involve in this decision?
- agreed / action-oriented - what do you actually need to do to ensure that the house you buy will suit your own requirements?
- realistic - be realistic about what you need to do to make this happen.  How much time will it take?  What paperwork do you need to have?  When will you be able to visit these houses?  How long will you need to stay to ensure that the house you select is the right one for you?  How do you get the mortgage?  When do you need to apply?
- time framed - clearly document what time you can allocate to visiting all areas, selecting the right area for you/your family, negotiating to buy it, organise the finance.  Build your expected timeframe around the time that you have available.
- exciting - It is true that it we cannot live, dream, breathe, be engulfed by our goal, it probably won't be achieved.  Now that you know what you have to do to purchase your new home, holding onto the excitment of your dream, your goal, your aspiration, will allow you to address each element of your emigration.
- recorded - at no point in your whole process is it more important to capture the detail.  Write it ALL down!

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk!

Find Barbara's biog on http://www.europeancoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

Tip eight - application!

How do you apply to make your move happen?  Our experiences showed various options available to you.

1. Where have you selected to emigrate to? 
    If you are a European, have you selected to remain in Europe?
    If you are a European, have you selected to move outside of Europe?
    If you are not a European, have you selected to move to another country which requires a visa?

2. How can you find out how to apply to make your move happen?
    Have you decided to buy a property?  If so, who is your Estate Agent and what services do they offer?  If your selected Estate Agent does not offer any additional services, who can they refer you to?

3. What would happen if you were to approach your own Embassy/Consulate in the Country you have selected to emigrate to?

4. Who did you come across when you were doing your reseach?

5. What exhibitions have you attended, where you met someone or a company that could help?

Now is the time for you to make a decison and approach someone:
- be specific about what type of help you need
- how you will measure that everything you need to do to be able to emigrate will be done
- agreed / action-oriented - keep this list up-to-date.  What do you actually need to do to ensure that the person/organisation you select to approach will help you?
- realistic - be realistic about what you need to do to make this happen.  How much time will it take?  What paperwork do you need to have?
- time framed - clearly document what time you can allocate to getting together all the paperwork, information, etc. that you require to make this happen.  Build your expected timeframe around the time that you have available.
- exciting - It is true that it we cannot live, dream, breathe, be engulfed by our goal, it probably won't be achieved.  Now that you know what you have to do to make it happen, holding onto the excitment of your dream, your goal, your aspiration, will allow you to address each element of this hint and tip.
- recorded - at no point in your whole process is it more important to capture the detail.  Write it ALL down!

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk!

Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

Tip seven - budget!

One of the challenges of any move - locally, nationally or internationally.  The difference is that internationally you need to consider additional costs, over those you would have if you were to move locally or even nationally.

1. Visas - the cost of these is dependant upon where you have selected to emigrate to.
    Residence - if as a European, you are staying within Europe, then you will need to gain residence in the country you have selected to move to.  This incurs a cost - a lot less than visas for countries outside of Europe.

2. Property - what budget do you need to allocate to purchase the type of property you are looking foat your new destination?

3. Purchase costs - what are these?

4. Mortgage/Loan - what sort of mortgage or loan do you need to secure to purchase your property.  Advice we were given was that it was easier to organise this from your current country of residence, as you have a credit rating - in your destination country you do not have this.

5. Schooling - what costs will you need to cover in order for your children to attend the local schools, colleges, or universities?

6. Transport - what is the cost of purchasing a new car?
    What is the benefits and costs of taking your current car?

7. Flights to/from your country of destination!
    How many times do you have to fly in/out of your country of destination before you actually move?

8. Moving costs - what will it cost you to move your possessions to your country of destination?

9. What other costs should you have included in your budget?

10. What contingency have you added for those hidden, unexpected, not known costs?

Now is the time for you to capture in as much detail as possible your budget:
- be specific about all costs
- how you will measure that these costs are complete
- agreed / action-oriented - keep this list up-to-date.  Enter any new budget costs.  Enter all actual spend.  Acknowledge when the actual spend is higher than budget - update your contingency.
- realistic - be realistic about what it will cost you to move.  This is not the time to incur unexpected costs and start your new life with a debt.  Against each cost, enter the detail as to where the monies are coming from to cover the cost.
- time framed - clearly document what your timescales are for each cost associate with your move. 
- exciting - It is true that it we cannot live, dream, breathe, be engulfed by our goal, it probably won't be achieved.  Now that you know what it will cost you to move, yes it's probably scary! but holding onto the excitment of your dream, your goal, your aspiration, will allow you to address each element of this hint and tip.
- recorded - at no point in your whole process is it more important to capture the detail.  Write it ALL down - expected costs, actual costs, over-spends, under-spends, continually update your contingency!

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk!

Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

Tip six - decision!

Now you've made your mind up - you are going to emigrate!  It really doesn't matter the reason that you are going to emigrate - be it for work, projects, new environment, grass looks greener on the other side - you've made your decision!

1. Where are you looking?

2. What type of environment are you looking for?

3. What social life do you want?

4. What are the impacts on your immediate family (those travelling with you)?

5. Work - school!  What do you need to do to ensure that these requirements are met?

6. How does this decision impact the family remaining behind?
    How does this decision impact your relationship with the family remaining behind?

7. What research do you still need to do?
     When will you visit your country of destination to complete this research?

8. Who do you now need to start to talk to?

9. Who can help you make this move?

10. Which action will you select to do first?
      When will you complete this action?
      Who do you need to discuss this with?  Who can help you?
      How long will it take you to do?
      When do you need to start?

It is probably more important now than any of the writing in your journal that you've done to:
- be specific about what your answers.  It's probably the right time to write in bullet point format rather than in paragraphs.
- clearly document how you will measure the success of each of your actions
- agreed / action-oriented - be absolutely clear on the actions you need to take to ensure that you keep on your select path
- realistic - how easy will it be to keep on your path.  What will you do if you find that something stops you.
- time framed - clearly document what your timescale is for each task/action, and what your timescale is for each decision you need to take.
- exciting - now that you have made your decision, how excited are you?  It is true that it we cannot live, dream, breathe, be engulfed by our goal, it probably won't be achieved - so being clear about your decision is important. 
- recorded - it's important to capture your goal ... write a sentence (preferably not a paragraph) about your reason for selecting this destination.  This will allow you to focus - clearly focus.  Now write it on something or put it somewhere where you will see it regularly.

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk!

Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

Tip five - the 'why not's!'

Take this time to clearly understand what is good in your current environment, relationships, work/career/business, social life, hobbies, and any other area that you are currently experiencing.

Take some time out to be very clear about what you and only you want to change in your future.

Now think about the reasons why you should not move.  Sounds like a strange suggestion, but getting absolutely clarity on why you want to move will truly make it happen.  Thinking about the reasons why you should not move will help you identify what you need to find in your future.

It is probably more important now than any of the writing in your journal that you've done to:
- be specific about why you do not want to move
- be specific about why you do not want to change your current life
- know how you will measure finding these elements/areas in your future life
- agreed / action-oriented - be absolutely clear on the actions you need to take to ensure that you keep in your future life what you do not want to leave behind from your current life
- realistic - how easy will it be to keep what you do not want to leave behind?  If you have any concerns about one of your 'why not's', then you need to include the research you need to do in your actions/tasks.
- time framed - clearly document what your timescale is for each task/action, and what is your timescale for each decision you need to take?
- exciting - looking at the 'why not's' - do you still feel excited about your moving?  It is true that it we cannot live, dream, breathe, be engulfed by our goal, it probably won't be achieved - so knowing that what you do not want to leave behind/lose won't be - will help! 
- recorded - it's important to capture your goal ... write a sentence (preferably not a paragraph) about your what you want to keep when you emigrate.  This will allow you to focus - clearly focus.  Now write it on something or put it somewhere where you will see it regularly.

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk!

Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

TIp four - time for reflection!

It is important that before you select to make any decisions that you take the time to reflect on your decision.  You have answered many questions in the previous three tips and now is the time for you to sit down, quietly and reflect on your answers to the questions asked and to your own questions.

It's important to remember that the answers you give to your own questions and to the questions asked in this blog or by your Expat Coach are answers that you only share with yourself.  It is your decision if you decide to share these with anyone else.

- What was the real reason that you want to move away from where you are living now?

- What are you truly looking for in the environment that you want to move to?
   At the same time, what are you truly looking to move away from in the environment that you are now living in?

- What do you want from your lifestyle?
   At the same time, what are you looking to change in your current lifestyle?

- What do you want from your new property?
   At the same time, what are you looking to move away from in the property you are now living?

- What do you want from your bank accounts?
   At the same time, what are you looking to change in your current bank accounts?
   Strange question you may say, but have you truly looked at all elements of moving? 

What benefits have you got now that you might lose?  What benefits have you not got now that you might gain?

- What do you want from your social life?
   At the same time, what are you looking to change in your current social life?

- What do you want from your working life/requirements/career/business?
   At the same time, what are you looking to change in your current job/career/business?

- What do you want for your health?
   At the same time, what are you looking to change in relation to your health now?

- What do you want from your cost of living?
   At the same time, what are you looking to change in your current cost of living?

- What do you know of the legislation, regulation and tax systems in the country you are looking to move to?
   At the same time, what are you trying to get away from in relation to legislation, regulation and tax?
   OK - so we are all trying to get away from paying tax, but it is worth being very clear about what tax you are paying now and what you will be paying.

During your reflection, please remember to be:
- specific about your answers
- where you are looking for something, be clear about how will you measure what you are looking for
- agreed / action-oriented - you've heard the phrase 'if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail'.  When writing in your journal be absolutely clear about what you have to do to get there.  Now is the time for you to really document your tasks, your actions.  If you need to do more research - do it.  If you need to visit, visit!  If you need time, take the time!  It's important now to identify exactly what you need to do to achieve your goal.
- realistic - looking at what you have now written down, what draws you to want to move?
- time framed - what is your timescale for each task/action, and what is your timescale for each decision you need to take?
- exciting - looking at your answers, how do you feel?  It's true that it we cannot live, dream, breathe, be engulfed by our goal, it probably won't be achieved.  If you are not feeling absolutely overwhelmed by excitement, now is the time to ask yourself 'what is the reason or reasons that I'm not sure about emigrating?'  Once you've written these down, if you have to go back to the beginning and reflect in your journal about these answers - this is the time to do it.  Once you know that this is your goal and no longer your dream, then move on!
- recorded - it's important to capture your goal ... write a sentence (preferably not a paragraph) about your emigration goal.  This will allow you to focus - clearly focus.  Now write it on something or put it somewhere where you will see it regularly.

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk!

Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

Tip three - don't despair!

Australia ... New Zealand ... South Africa ... Thailand ... Vietnam ... Philippines ... Malaysia ... Mexico ...  Where?  We didn't despair ... we knew that with enough research we would find the ideal place!  It's at times like this that you really need to absolutely clear on what your goal is. 

What is the real reason that you want to make this move? 

What are you trying to achieve by uprooting yourself, your family, your enviroment to go somewhere else?

After nearly five years of looking we still knew that we wanted to change our lifestyle.  We knew that it was the right time for us to do so - or accept that we would continue to live in the 'rut' that we were in.  We knew that this was not the lifestyle for us - we knew that we had to move.

Research shows that people tend to emigrate because they've visited somewhere that looks a lot 'nicer' than where they are today.  Often not enough research is done, to understand where they are now and what they really want.

Emigration does mean 'starting again!'  Unless you are lucky enough to move to a place where you know a lot of people, often you arrive, settle in, start work and it all feels the same as it did before your move but without the social life.

Thinking now about what you truly want:

- What do you like about your current environment?

- What do you like about your current job?

- What do you like about your immediate family? 

- How close are they to you now?

- How often do you get to visit them?

- What do you want to change about your current environment?

- What do you want to keep about your current environment?

- What do you want to change about your job?

- What do you like about your current job that you want to still do?

- How far do you want to be away from your immediate family?

- How often do you want to see them?

- Once you've moved, how will you make friends?

- How will you build your social life?

I understand that as another drizzly summer passes us by in the UK and the sunshine in other countries seems to draw us, it makes our plans for emigration all the more urgent!  How will you feel if you join the statistics of people who move and within a couple/three years have returned back to the place of starting/origin?

- How much research have you truly done to absolutely know that where you are looking to emigrate is the right place for you?

Don't despair ... just know that you will find your dream! 

Take this time to turn your dream into your goal!  Take some time and write in your journal - allow your imagination to run wild!  Everytime you think of a reason to move ... something you are drawn to ... an idea of your 'new' life ... just jot it down.  It's important when you are writing in your journal that you do not try and interpret your thoughts - just write them down as they come.

After a while (it may be days ... weeks ... months) review what you have written down and now, take a clean sheet of paper in your journal and be:
- specific about the type of lifestyle you want.
  specific about the type of environment you want to live in.
  specific about the type of job that you want to be doing.
  specific about the hours that you want to be working.
  specific about how you will find the 'job of your dreams'
  specific about how you will find friends.
  specific about how you will build up your social life.
- how will you measure that the life you are designing meets all the criteria you set initially?
- agreed / action-oriented - you've heard the phrase 'if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail'.  When writing in your journal be absolutely clear about what you have to do to get there.  Now if the time for you to really document your tasks, your actions.
- realistic - looking at what you have now written down, what about your 'new' life is different to the one you've got now?  What makes this new life realistic?  What draws you to want to live it?
- time framed - a lot of the process of emigration is outside our own control; so sometimes putting down a timescale for actually moving is a little difficult.  Now is the time to think about the decisions that you have to take (these are generally based on the tasks and actions you've set yourself above) - what is your timescale for each task/action, and what is your timescale for each decision you need to take?
- exciting - looking at your journal, how do you feel?  It's true that it we cannot live, dream, breathe, be engulfed by our goal, it probably won't be achieved.  If you are not feeling absolutely overwhelmed by excitement, now is the time to ask yourself 'what is the reason or reasons that I'm not sure about emigrating?'  Once you've written these down, if you have to go back to the beginning and reflect in your journal about these answers - this is the time to do it.  Once you know that this is your goal and no longer your dream, then move on!
- recorded - it's important to capture your goal ... write a sentence (preferably not a paragraph) about your emigration goal.  This will allow you to focus - clearly focus.  Now write it on something or put it somewhere where you will see it regularly.

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk!

Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

Tip two - what are you trying to move away from?

Now that you've spent some time working through why you do want to move away from your home country and why you don't, let's explore what you are trying to move away from.

What is it about your current life that you don't like? 

What dreams did you have as a child that you feel you have not fulfilled?

What is it that you do not like about the country you are living in?

What is it about the way you earn your living that you don't like?

What is it about the way you earn you living that you would like to change?

What is it about your immediate environment that you want to change?

What is it about your social life that you would like to change?

What is it about your health and fitness that you would like to change?

Who are you trying to move away from?

Where have you visited that so attracted you, that you feel you now want to move to there?

What is it about that country that has attracted you? 

Before you select to go through the upheaval, what do you need to do to be absolutely sure that the country you've visited, that has attracted you, is able to provide you with all those things you are trying to move away from?

Where in the country that is attacting you, would you be able to find the things that you don't like about the country you are currently living in?

Where could you live that would allow you fulfil the dreams you had as a child?

Where could you live that would allow you to find a way to earn your living, that incorporates the changes you would like to make?

Where could you live that would allow you to make the changes you want to make to your immediate environment?

How will you develop the social life that you would like to enjoy?

Looking at what you don't like about your health and fitness, where could you live that would allow you to make those changes?

What research have you done about your current country that shows that your current country provides you with the things that you are trying to move away from?

Where in your current country could you find the answers to your questions?

What country or countries would you like to research now that you know what you are trying to move away from?  Write these into your journal, with a list of things that you need to research.  Be:
- specific about the country or countries that you want to research.
  specific about the things you need to research in each country.
- how will you measure that your research is a success?
- agreed / action-oriented - you've heard the phrase 'if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail'.  When writing in your journal be clear about your research.
- realistic - looking at the things you are moving away from, what makes your answers a realistic reason to move?  What makes you think that where you are moving to will allow you to move away from these things?
- time framed - what timeframe have put on your move?  Looking at the research that you've still got to do, what makes you believe that you can meet your timeframe?
- exciting - looking back at what you've written down, does it make you feel excited about moving?  Write down what is exciting about the things you have moved away from. 
- recorded - it's important to capture this information in bullet form.  This will allow you to focus - clearly focus.

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk!

Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91

Tip one - really know why you want to make the change

Really, truly understanding your own reasons for making this change will help you remain focused when going through the months and years of the actual process.

How do you get this absolute clarity?  The simple answer is to find a coach to work with, but honestly asking yourself the questions that you know you have to ask, will also help bring this clarity.

What is the impact of your decision on your immediate family?

If you have a partner/spouse who is moving with you, what do they think?  What is the reason that they want to make this change?

If you have children, what do they think?  Depending on their age(s), what do they think about leaving their extended family and their friends behind and go into a new experience?

What is the impact of their feelings and reasons on your reasons to move?

What is the impact of your decision on your extended family?

What are you moving away from?  This maybe one of the most important questions you ask yourself.  Sometimes this question will bring clarity on the reason or reasons you believe that the 'grass is greener on the other side of the road - or in this world'!

What makes the answer to this question a really good reason to emigrate?

What are you moving towards?

What do you really, really want to get from this move?

What changes can you implement into your life today that will aleviate some of the reasons that are driving you to emigrate?

If you were to know, really, really know that your life will not change to the extent that you think it may, will you still move?

How will you feel when you've moved and you are still working as hard as you are today?

What do you need to know to have this absolute clarity?

What question(s) haven't been asked in this blog that you still know that you've got to ask?  If you aren't sure, but you know that there are - call me.  I'll help you find them.

Starting a journal, or writing in your existing journal, clearly write down the reason or reasons that are driving you to emigrate.  Be:
- specific
- how will you measure that your move was a success
- agreed / action-oriented - you've heard the phrase 'if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail'.  When writing in your journal be clear about whether you have agreed to these reasons
- realistic - looking at your reasons are they realistic? or are they just excuses?
- time framed - what timeframe have put on your move?  The reasons that you've listed, do they support your timeframe?
- exciting - looking back at what you've written down, does it make you feel excited about moving?  Write down what is exciting about the reasons that you want to move. 
- recorded - it's important to capture this information in bullet form.  This will allow you to focus - clearly focus.

Want to make a success of your plans to move?  Want to work with someone who will not judge the reasons you want to make your move, who will not guide you down a specific path?  You have this opportunity to work with a qualified and accredited coach who has done it!

Just email Barbara on barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk!

Find Barbara's biog on http://www.internationalcoachinginstitute.org/coach_referral_service/display_detail.php?trf=91